Adapted from an online discussion.

Dear Carolyn: A former best friend hurt me terribly several years ago when she didn’t invite me to her son’s wedding, citing numbers. She must have known she was going to do this when she was planning her daughter’s wedding, for which she asked me to host a pre-wedding luncheon. Her daughter is my goddaughter, and I did it happily.

She apologized for excluding me from her son’s wedding, but since then, when she posts on social media about events she’s held, or photos of friends invited to her country house (I’ve never been invited), I feel all that hurt again.

Now, because I feel so hurt, I promise myself I’ll stop responding to her texts and not see her, but then I cave. What should I do?

— Obsessing Over Friend Estrangement